Tips to Fall in Love… With Brain Chemistry

Am I in love?

Craving for passionate sex, desire of romantic liaison, or feelings of long-term union.

Which of these is love? The TRUE LOVE?

The Timeline of Love guide casts light on your doubts. With a Big Brain’s help.

An Ancient Greek scholar?

Or Shakespeare?


None of them.

The answer may surprise you…

Timeline of Love

Helen Fisher, US biological anthropologist, has discovered that these shades are actually all stages of what makes us blush…

Yes, you heard it right – biology here!

Falling in love is a long BIOLOGICAL PROCESS that involves 3 stages:

  1. lust
  2. attraction
  3. attachment

These separate emotions do not originate from the heart. We are puppets in the hands of our brain chemistry.

Let’s give a closer look to the hormones involved:

Love #1: LUST

Lust is the initial passionate sexual desire that promotes mating.

Testosterone and oestrogen, the sex hormones, tantalize our senses.

The more we get, the more we want….


Attraction is the more individualized and romantic desire for a specific mating candidate. It develops out of lust – as a commitment to our partner.

Dopamine and noradrenaline increase to uplift or devastate all the men and women in the world. Serotonin decreases.

Heartbeats speed up. We begin to feel love, obsession, and excitement when around the person. Palms sweat a lot. Mouths get dry.


Attachment is the bonding that promotes relationships lasting for many years, even decades. It is generally based on commitments such as marriage and children; or on friendships built on common interests.

After the crazy attraction phase, the levels of serotonin and adrenaline go back to normal. Oxytocin and vasopressin come into play.

So, what does this all mean?

Science tells us that we have much less conscious control over what we feel than we think.

As shown in Medify’s graphic, it seems that our bodies are the ones calling the shots when it comes to love.


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